Hi, its a very funny incidence happen at 4 am in morning , a few things are learned very hard way, and first night of marriage is one of them, if marriage is arranged then the married couple know each other from just few days. if u know a little about Indian marriage then you will know the concept of "suhag raat" means first night. i never seen any boy who was not sweating before this. even the hulk once got scared too. coz its kind of start of there marriage and sex life,....
a friend of mine getting married soon and you can understand his condition that he called me at 4 am to talk about his thinking about the "First night'".
when he called i was shocked and irritated cos its my sleep time but i was more surprised that he chose me to talk on this...well I'm not married so its weird that he want information from me lol...
his question inspire me to write this post....here me gonna write some of them....
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Friend : What do I do on that day?
me: if u talking abt doing boom boom then i would say you hold the record for watching every porn movie ever made. Things should be clear to you by now?
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Friend: No, my question is do people go all the way on the first night itself?
Me: I dont think government keep any record of that data...But what does it matter to you what people do. Do what you feel is right.
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Friend : Do you think she would be comfortable with it?
Me : That is an excellent question to ask her.
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Friend: " What if she is too shy to say?
Me: if she will feel shy about about this then it will be your sign to stop asking her stupid questions
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Friend: But what if she doesnt want me to ask questions and look like I dont know what I am doing? I think women like their men to be manly. Take charge. Decide things for them.
Me: ( thinking: decide things for them" do i have to blast his happy bubble , i even not try to guess in which ERA he is living now ...but i said) I believe most women like to be treated with respect. They would like their opinion to matter. They may want you to take charge and lead the way in matters such as taking the car out for servicing, but in just about everything else, they want to be a part of the decision making process.
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Friend : what if that not happen...u know "that"
Me: ya i know "that" ..... better be comfortable with her then to start all this...its not a race..she is ur for all life.... dont rush things ... in a way she just leave her parent family...dont give a image that u not care that and just wanna "DO THAT".... Talking first is best option
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Friend : i guess that's the way....so what r u doing now
Me : 'Click" cut the phone and back to sleep...
